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There was some discussion on discord about BDSM, and also here on F95. Impo this “4-letter-term” might be misleading.
If we think it over, there are 3 different meanings of BDSM:
A) A person gets captured (ofc against his/her will) and tortured heavily against will.
This is the hardcore meaning, off-putting for many ppl,
but often this kind of BDSM comes in mind when one hears this term.
B) A person really likes to experience being dominated and gets sexual satisfaction (only) through this. This masochistic tendency often comes from education, e.g. the only attention from parents a kid gets is through scolding and punishment of any kind. The only body contact a kid experienced is through spanking.
When girls receive such hardships through their father, in adult life there is a high chance that they attract men who behave like her father.
That’s the only way, she knows to get attention, “love” and physical contact. This kind of BDSM is mutual impo.
C) A person is in urgent need for something and doesn’t see any way out of this dilemma than bargaining – agreeing to a deal. “Let’s trade this for that”.
For Galadriel this deal is money in exchange for giving in to Saurons demands.
She still could say “NO!” to the deal and give up her position as a leader of her army.
Therefor I also would call this kind of BDSM mutual (Giving and receiving is in balance).
If we think it over, there are 3 different meanings of BDSM:
A) A person gets captured (ofc against his/her will) and tortured heavily against will.
This is the hardcore meaning, off-putting for many ppl,
but often this kind of BDSM comes in mind when one hears this term.
B) A person really likes to experience being dominated and gets sexual satisfaction (only) through this. This masochistic tendency often comes from education, e.g. the only attention from parents a kid gets is through scolding and punishment of any kind. The only body contact a kid experienced is through spanking.
When girls receive such hardships through their father, in adult life there is a high chance that they attract men who behave like her father.
That’s the only way, she knows to get attention, “love” and physical contact. This kind of BDSM is mutual impo.
C) A person is in urgent need for something and doesn’t see any way out of this dilemma than bargaining – agreeing to a deal. “Let’s trade this for that”.
For Galadriel this deal is money in exchange for giving in to Saurons demands.
She still could say “NO!” to the deal and give up her position as a leader of her army.
Therefor I also would call this kind of BDSM mutual (Giving and receiving is in balance).